March 21, 2023

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 56 yr previous male who has been with an incredible man, 50, for 20 years. We acquired married two years in the past. He’s a professor; I’m a clinician.

Over the previous 20 years, we have been constructing nice lives as we moved up the company ladder, touring to 80 nations, consuming and eating in one of the best locations on this planet, and growing lasting friendships with individuals everywhere in the planet.

5 years in the past, regardless of our happiness, I felt empty and began speaking to him about kids. He was categorically in opposition to it. I let it go, however now this vacancy is tearing me other than the within. I’m on the verge of giving up my life with him to have a toddler by myself by means of adoption or IVF with a surrogate mom.

His largest concern is how his comfy life will change ceaselessly. My downside is getting the previous few drops of unrealized happiness earlier than it is too late. Please advise.


DEAR HBI: In case your husband is firmly satisfied that he doesn’t need his way of life to alter, he might not take note of that if you happen to disappear from view, he’ll nonetheless change. And it isn’t unusual for somebody who fears the accountability of elevating a toddler to alter their thoughts and fall in love with the little particular person after assembly her or him.

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