DEAR MISS MANNERS: I moved into the home about three years in the past. Late one night, a male neighbor got here as much as me and was mowing the grass. Not anticipating this, I gave him what little money I had, plus some treats. A couple of weeks later, I delivered a set of vacation treats to my spouse.
After that, the person started to go outdoors each time I labored within the yard. He sat and watched, walked to the top of the yard or driveway, and even bought into the automobile to get a greater view. He by no means greeted me and didn’t speak after we regarded into one another’s eyes, which was unusual and uncomfortable for me.
I attempted to disregard it—till at some point he came visiting whereas I used to be hunched over with my again to the road. I rotated and out of the blue he was there with out saying a phrase so I screamed in shock.
He left so rapidly that I did not discover him go away. I used to be shocked and determined it was time to speak about his habits. I modified and went throughout the road to speak to him.
I requested why he got here. He stated he wished to inform me that I used to be working too arduous chopping hedges with a clipper as an alternative of a trimmer. I stated that working within the yard did not hassle me.
I requested him why he seems to be at me a lot and likewise talked about that he does not converse. He responded by saying that he was curious, wished to see what I used to be as much as, and concluded by saying, “I feel I may wave or thoughts my very own enterprise.”
I requested him to thoughts his personal enterprise and stated that he was making me really feel uncomfortable. Was I impolite for this?
CAREFUL READER: Nicely, that was far more well mannered than calling the authorities, which Ms. Manners assures you’ll be a worthy different if this habits continued.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I take advantage of a sugar substitute to sweeten my espresso and tea. They normally are available small paper baggage. I do not know what to do with empty baggage whereas eating at a restaurant.
After two or three cups of espresso, the packages are mendacity on the desk. Fold them neatly, put them on a saucer (if the cup has one), or add them to an empty plate with used cutlery?
Personally, I favor workers to take out the trash once they put away used gadgets at mealtimes. Is it impolite to provide away empty baggage or put them on an empty plate?
CAREFUL READER: That is the rationale Ms. Manners buys her breakfast sweetener in sachets as an alternative of ugly packages.
However even she is aware of that there are too many sorts – and potential mix-ups – for regular restaurant use, and that well being laws could require the sugar to be wrapped. Due to this fact, it’s extra right to depart disagreeable empty baggage on a saucer (if any), a plate or a desk, throwing a vaguely expectant, however barely apologetic have a look at your unfortunate waiter.
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